tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post6135625984031675602..comments2023-10-16T02:51:15.798-07:00Comments on Bunny's Victory: Inspired Bunny RantAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07399307155035285501noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-34923777861379000672012-10-22T05:42:17.493-07:002012-10-22T05:42:17.493-07:00Thank you to all of you for sharing your stories ...Thank you to all of you for sharing your stories with me and for supporting me exactly when I need it. I hope I can do the same for all of you one day. You are all incredible women and I hope your friendships dear to my heart! xoxBunny Morenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07399307155035285501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-65934113432123448902012-10-22T03:34:15.153-07:002012-10-22T03:34:15.153-07:00Dear Bunny,What your feeling is COMPLETELY normal....Dear Bunny,<br>What your feeling is COMPLETELY normal.I remember reading many years ago "motherhood is 50% resentment, 50% guilt" and while this is not really this case the sentiment is true. We feel guilty if we don't do all the things we think a good mother should do, if we want a little more time etc. <br><br>Winter is an awful period for me, this winter (that has just finished here) was a bad, cold one and I had to try and cheer myself up by divising a "Sewing-my-way-toSpring"campaign. I set myself a few Spring/Summer sewing dress projects to do and as I completed each one I felt a little closer to the warmer, happier weather. I'm not saying that this sort of thing is the answer but these things help to distract me from the blah of bad times.<br><br>I have a son with additional needs and at times this can be quite trying and worrying...motherhood is a really hard job and I sympathise and empathise with you. Hang in there, look for the joy in little everyday things and the spring will soon return to your step. Best wishes Shauna<br><br>princesspincurls.comhttp://princesspincurls.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-29153235565875784062012-10-10T19:20:45.729-07:002012-10-10T19:20:45.729-07:00I believe that you are already doing one of the si...I believe that you are already doing one of the single most important things you can, discussing your thoughts, concerns, worries, frustrations and so on openly and honestly. Take from someone who has a tendency to really keep to herself and to let worries fester, no good can come from bottling everything up. That doesn't mean has to blog about every concern or private matter, of course not, but sometimes just getting thoughts out of your brain and down on (virtual) paper can provide a lot of relief and help unto itself.<br><br>I think you are an amazing, wonderful, strong, creative woman, blogger and mother, and I'm always here for you anyway I can be, sweet friend.<br><br><br>Endless hugs & understanding,<br>♥ Jessica <br><br>Jessica Cangianohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-68089529991928768512012-10-10T15:14:55.631-07:002012-10-10T15:14:55.631-07:00Hello Bunny,I just wanted you to know that I stopp...Hello Bunny,<br><br>I just wanted you to know that I stopped by and read this post. I don't know what to say, in giving any help. From what I have read on your blog, I think you will soon get through this feeling of blues. <br><br>I have always been a wife and mother at home. My husband makes a modest income. We only go out for a "date" on our anniversary or one of our birthdays...typically no more than three times a year. We seldom eat fast food. Usually we take snacks along if we plan to be out for the day. Most of our marriage, we only have had one vehicle, and although we have two now, I still do not have a vehicle because my son uses it for getting to work and school. <br><br>I never had a housekeeper, and I only had a sister babysit my children a handful of times. (My family no longer lives that close.) We always took our children with us if we went out.<br><br>It seem, the biggest difference between us is that your husband is gone way more than mine ever was; that makes it MUCH harder for you.<br><br>I was always a homebody. I did not mind one bit being at home nearly 24/7 with my children - I loved it; to me it was heaven.<br><br>My life is not so much like your anymore because I no longer have young children, although I would still tell you that those were the happiest days of my life. My children are all still at home, but all older; my youngest just turned 13. Actually, I would say that my life now is much harder than it was when they were young. Things were so much simpler then. Now I have much more work to do with everyone making bigger messes and leaving their things around. My house is messier with older children than it ever was when they were little. <br><br>Everyone is going in different directions and the stress level is MUCH higher. I have three in college and when they are stressed, I am stressed. On top of that, my husband shares his stress with me day and night. Yes, when he can't sleep; I don't get to sleep. And the number of sleepless nights have increased as he gets older because his work is harder for him now than it was when he was younger. (He works around a lot of technology, and he is expected to continually learn new things.)<br><br>Oh dear, I am not sure if I should summit this comment. It has gotten as long as your post and I am supposed to be COMFORTING you.<br><br>I do NOT believe that the women of the 1950s had it so bad. Staying home was what women did; no one expected them to be doing more than that. I wish it were still that simple. Now people behave as if you are not doing anything if <i>all</i> you do is stay at home and take care of your family. How sad. <br><br>The job you are doing is the best and most important job in the entire world!!! I stand by that statement. I believe that is why I have always been completely content being a wife and mother. That defines me. That is who I am and all I need to be.<br><br>I hope you find peace in your own situation. I pray you find the comfort you need to satisfy your soul. <br><br>Love,<br>Hope<br>Hopehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09640317920452384392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-6220433424389268242012-10-10T13:42:31.946-07:002012-10-10T13:42:31.946-07:00I have so much to say, I don't even know where...I have so much to say, I don't even know where to begin.<br><br>First, I wish with all my heart that we lived in the same city. You are one of the sweetest and most fabulous women I know. If I lived ten minutes away, I would seriously drop by your house every day, even if it was just for 15 minutes to have coffee/tea or have lunch or watch a movie or talk or whatever. You have no idea how badly I wish I could do this.<br><br>What you're describing reminds me a book I read in Women's Studies back in college. It was about the 1950s housewife syndrome. There were women who loved being stay-at-home moms but like you, wanted more out of life. Their husbands were gone at work all the time, they didn't have many friends nearby, and they didn't have any hobbies that were practical for their schedule/funds.<br><br>One of the things I love about you is that even though you're stuck in a rut, you still pursue your passions. You're a pinup model who blogs about vintage/retro awesomeness. Your knowledge about pop culture (especially the golden era of Hollywood) is enviable and inspiring. I love that you have that outlet, even though it's honestly not enough. Can you imagine if you didn't? Like, if it really was the 1950s?!<br><br>I completely understand what you mean about more money and more time. And what's even more frustrating is that it's not even A LOT of money you need to make a difference. You're not asking to win millions of dollars in the lottery, you simply need just thousands of dollars more to make life a little more manageable.<br><br>I'm sorry you're having the winter blues. I also suffer from this sentiment. I absolutely hate cold weather and I despise driving in snow. I can't afford to pay for any senseless fender benders that arise from my sliding down a busy street or some idiot plowing into my car because he's going 45 in two feet of snow. Sigh. Just thinking about the upcoming winter makes me want to cry. :S<br><br>I hope things pick up for you. xoxoJennifer Fabuloushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07521908385026885699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-61336756949460201812012-10-10T13:16:14.895-07:002012-10-10T13:16:14.895-07:00I get the winter blues too- very badly actually! I...I get the winter blues too- very badly actually! I should probably be on medication for seasonal affective disorder but I try to cope with it in other ways. I use light therapy, eat lots of fresh fruit and veg and soak up natural light when I can. Not getting out of the house is hell on the winter blues so I often close the windows, turn on lots of bright lights and pretend that it's a sunny day. I totally agree with Trina too. Give the kids any small distraction that you can so you can get a little work done. Its not easy but 5 minutes here and there makes a difference. We're all here for you, sweetie!<br> xBrittany_Va-VoomVintagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04377031677999463069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-69800217356443369432012-10-10T13:15:14.400-07:002012-10-10T13:15:14.400-07:00I think you should be very proud of what you have ...I think you should be very proud of what you have accomplished:) It's also a great thing that you do take some time for yourself. My husband also works long hours and I rarely see him during the week so having my own personal goals helps me out tremendously. One thing I find that helps to determine success is determination. And, from what I see, you have tons of this:) I think how you focus on a goal and work towards it is what helps you grow and move forward. It's a-okay to vent and having a blog is a great outlet:)) The good thing about your creative outlet in vintage is that there is a vast resource of free material on the internet:) I love to look at the historical perspective and so thankful that this period is available to us through film, the written word, and photography.Joannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16439393534029787165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6024809647356519029.post-50463588573123809192012-10-10T12:19:33.260-07:002012-10-10T12:19:33.260-07:00It's all right girl we are all going through i...It's all right girl we are all going through it too. First of all this might help with your blog. In the morning I usually get up first, between 6 and 6:30. I make a cup of coffee and start working on my blog right away and it's done with little interruptions. If the girls are awake they are usually just waking up so I put some cartoons on and give them some Ovaltine and that keeps them busy enough for me to complete what I need done. As far as your husband being away that has to be the hardest thing for you, I really feel for you honestly, my husband was gone for two nights this week and I missed him so much. I know how it feels to be isolated, for 8 years in Michigan I had no friends or family to speak of just my husband who worked late and traveled quite a bit and then later on my children. I did have a car but everything was so far away I only left the house twice a month to go grocery shopping, that was my big day. Just know your friends might not be able to come over and visit but we are here for you anytime you want or need to talk!Trina44http://www.blogger.com/profile/15705910955552487866noreply@blogger.com